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Post by jennyinheaven on Jan 19, 2020 11:38:23 GMT
I think DH needs to stop helping DD1 with her reading. He means well but he just gets frustrated with her and usually it results in tears. Neither of us ever struggled with learning to read so it's a very new experience for us to see her have trouble. The majority of kids who are not yet 6 are not ready to read yet. When it clicks, it clicks. I wouldn’t push. You actually shouldn’t push before they’re ready so they don’t hate it. My friends son couldn’t read by the end of kindergarten and he’s in 5th grade and at the top of his class. It’s like who potty trained first- doesn’t mean jack shit. Yeah I actually had a bunch of trouble learning to read up until after first grade. My mom put me in a summer reading course that taught a different way and presto. I was in advanced reading by 3rd grade and went on to get a perfect verbal SAT score and reading/english has basically been my jam all through my life. I still love to read. So I think you're right in having DH step back from helping her if it's just becoming a frustrating mess for both of them right now. She will learn when she is ready. |
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Post by jennyinheaven on Jan 19, 2020 11:42:22 GMT
It’s basically like a c/s I assume it will be the same or more sore I feel like I would have been okay to go 2 weeks after my csections physicAlly. But will this be after the baby is born? I wouldn’t leave a tiny newborn Hernia not a newborn😂 for some reason I pictured a tiny crying hernia when reading this |
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Post by jennyinheaven on Jan 19, 2020 11:51:08 GMT
Any tips to help with a smelly drain? Our main floor bathroom sink drain STINKS. It's been that way for a little over a week. I don't know what it smells like (not sewer smelly), but Dh thinks it smells like pot (neither one of us uses pot, so it's not that). I don't know what pot smells like, so I can't confirm. I just cleaned it on Wed, and used what I normally use (scrubbing bubbles and hot water) and even that didn't get rid of it. I tried a big stock pot of boiling vinegar water today and dumping baking soda and vinegar down there. Hasn't done anything for it. I'm going to pour some drano down in the morning. Any other tips? Bleach? My my dishwasher gets stinky sometimes (skunky which coincidentally smells a like some pot) I run it empty with bleach and baking soda and it takes the smell away. |
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Post by scotty on Jan 19, 2020 16:22:50 GMT
Our school district is voting to change 4k to 4 full days a week (previously just 2 days a week) at the next school board meeting. I understand parents who want that option, but it seems like so much for a 4 year old. It's awesome that they want to take some financial burden from parents seeking child care, but I hope it is less school-like than 4k is now, because 4 days of that is a lot. Let the kids play.
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Post by footloose on Jan 20, 2020 0:20:55 GMT
I haven't checked in for a few days, but this is apt because I was furious the other day with my kids teacher. Shaming me with a note in her agenda that I MUST read her level book every day as she is falling behind the other kids. They are on strike and have not done anything with the kids in over 2 months! No homework, no phonics sent home, no books. It just started back 2 weeks ago and they have another day of strike planned and just had one last week as well.
I have read every single day of my kids life to her even as a baby and make her pick out all the words she knows. I don't think she should be expected to know how to read fully yet but they do. However, I am not a teacher and work all day and then have to make dinner and chores, but now also have to basically teach my kid to read now or she will be embarrassed that others know more than her.
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Post by footloose on Jan 20, 2020 0:47:01 GMT
And in other news, guess I have a boyfriend now?? Lol
I had texted him yesterday evening asking out of curiosity what he thinks we are. We haven't discussed it and I felt like I should know in case I should move on or whatever. I didn't realize he was out so he answered way after i went to bed but said I don't know, what would you say? It bugged me so I let hours go before I replied I guess nothing based on your non answer. I would have said seeing each other or going out.
He calls me and we are talking and it seems like it's not going well as he says the distance and my kid and no father in her life etc. Turns out, he must have some notions in his head that all girls want to immediately live together and get married and see each other all the time and he would then be my kids dad and be responsible for her and financially etc. I was thrown completely and was like wow I just wanted to know if someone asked you what you were doing how would you describe me? All of this other scenario was not in my brain and moving in would be even distant and not soon. He then says that it was a good question and he has told people that he has a girlfriend here. A whole lot of drama that I didn't even think was there. He wanted to come see me so we talked, I am fine with seeing each other once a week. Is it the MOST ideal situation ever? No. But it is what it is right now and he works long hours and I have work and Peyton's activities so am busy anyway. He thought all girls make lots of plans right away and thought it would not work and lol, I have not and also like my alone time too. Living with a guy is not always super fun and we don't have those arguments about house stuff and not in a rush for that.
So we agreed boyfriend/girlfriend, are exclusive and all that 😁 Good god, who ever knew my life would still be so high school like at 46???
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Post by spins on Jan 20, 2020 2:28:50 GMT
I’m watching ski World Cup on tv and every other commercial is for men’s razors and ED pills. I’m clearly the wrong gender
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Post by athena on Jan 20, 2020 2:43:46 GMT
footloose, no matter what age, that relatonship talk is awkward, Glad you got it worked out and yay for boyfriend!
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Post by luvboston on Jan 20, 2020 4:00:53 GMT
footloose congrats on the boyfriend! Have you seen Peyton read this book they say she can’t? Do you think she just doesn’t read at school when pressed?
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Post by lulu on Jan 20, 2020 9:45:51 GMT
footloose has P ever mentioned feeling that she’s behind, not as ahead as the other kids or embarrassed? Kids all have different speeds - even as an adult I know I’m a slow reader. I love reading and don’t have difficulties, but I go at my own pace. At work during training sessions, I would have to ask the teachers to wait for me to catch up before moving on - which is why I know I’m slower paced. I bet Peyton loves reading with you and will love the tradition of reading since she was a baby. Don’t let the teacher make you feel bad and if Peyton isn’t fussed then you shouldn’t be either.
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Post by footloose on Jan 20, 2020 11:25:36 GMT
footloose congrats on the boyfriend! Have you seen Peyton read this book they say she can’t? Do you think she just doesn’t read at school when pressed? They just sent one of those books home and we have gone over several times this weekend. She can read the small words she knows like The, And, Be, He etc, but they don't teach sounding out each letter when reading. They teach look at the pictures for clues- however, the horse is not a clue. The word that is most often is Big and she keeps guessing and then says pony etc because of the pictures. I keep doing the sounds and putting them together until you do it quicker and then you just hear that word. It is a frustrating way to be taught for me as not how I was taught and don't feel it helps you when all pictures do not relate to all words and it's just a guessing way of reading. I bought a book to help you teach your child to read a d it has good reviews. It arrives Wednesday so we will see if it helps. I don't push it, but don't want to be the reason she isn't advancing either. |
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Post by footloose on Jan 20, 2020 11:29:41 GMT
footloose has P ever mentioned feeling that she’s behind, not as ahead as the other kids or embarrassed? Kids all have different speeds - even as an adult I know I’m a slow reader. I love reading and don’t have difficulties, but I go at my own pace. At work during training sessions, I would have to ask the teachers to wait for me to catch up before moving on - which is why I know I’m slower paced. I bet Peyton loves reading with you and will love the tradition of reading since she was a baby. Don’t let the teacher make you feel bad and if Peyton isn’t fussed then you shouldn’t be either. She has never mentioned it no. I do know that the schools have a lot of different curriculum they focus on and that is another issue. They kind of rush from one subject to the next, instead of just focus on a few. At this age if reading and printing and math are important then should have more time spent on it. But that is where they do the beginning and basically expect the parent to do the main constant practice like we have nothing else going on and also my kid is tired after being at school all day every day, but yes yet me throw lots of practice at her when she has been up since 6:30 🙄 |
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Post by mary97 on Jan 20, 2020 14:01:12 GMT
footloose, at home I would just do whatever works best for DD. I can't imagine not teaching how to sound out words along with using visual clues found in the book. I wish there were no pictures most of the time because it's so easy to guess something that isn't the correct word like horse instead of big and then deal with the frustration of getting it wrong.
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Post by athena on Jan 21, 2020 13:09:15 GMT
School is closes today due to heat being out in the middle school building. I wish they had only cancelled the middle school
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Post by jennyinheaven on Jan 21, 2020 19:05:12 GMT
I woke up with a headache that won't quit. Took ibuprofen twice and my head is still killing me, it's 2pm here. Any suggestions?
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Post by comicsans on Jan 21, 2020 19:07:15 GMT
I woke up with a headache that won't quit. Took ibuprofen twice and my head is still killing me, it's 2pm here. Any suggestions? Chug some water and then have some caffeine. Excedrine migraine is my go to headache med |
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Post by lulu on Jan 21, 2020 19:07:49 GMT
I woke up with a headache that won't quit. Took ibuprofen twice and my head is still killing me, it's 2pm here. Any suggestions? As much water as you can manage as that always helps my headaches. Try to close curtains/blinds and turn off screens and TVs if possible as light can often be a trigger. |
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Post by athena on Jan 21, 2020 19:08:02 GMT
I woke up with a headache that won't quit. Took ibuprofen twice and my head is still killing me, it's 2pm here. Any suggestions? Caffeine? Excedrin? Sorry. Sounds like when I get migraines. I usually lay in the dark and try and sleep, but I doubt you have the time for that. |
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Post by meggypoo1 on Jan 21, 2020 21:25:21 GMT
So work is having me travel to Houston for a two hour meeting. Awesome. 🙄
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Post by luvboston on Jan 22, 2020 0:49:49 GMT
Dd best friend clearly has a speech problem when she can’t say a word she starts talking baby talk she’s 6. The other day I was talking to her and she looked at me like I was crazy she didn’t understand I was saying the word thing. Dd tried to tell her thing and her friend kept saying thin thin I then spelled it.
She doesn’t get speech at school and I don’t think she’s going outside school her family has been through a lot the last few years and her mom is a preschool teacher. I have no idea how to bring this up with her without offending her. I think the problem is getting worse.
WWYD?
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Post by springbeduk on Jan 22, 2020 11:31:33 GMT
footloose, at home I would just do whatever works best for DD. I can't imagine not teaching how to sound out words along with using visual clues found in the book. I wish there were no pictures most of the time because it's so easy to guess something that isn't the correct word like horse instead of big and then deal with the frustration of getting it wrong. English has so very many non-phonetic words (and also homographs) that we have to teach kids to think just as much about what would sound right/make sense as about sounding out. Many people figure this out pretty naturally which is why back when reading instruction was pretty much all phonics the majority of people still learned to read. But some don't and looking at a word like 'laugh' and going luh-a-uh-guh-huh and then having no other strategy to try when that makes no sense is just as bad as guessing horse from the picture when the word says pony. The should be being taught to cross-check, though - if they have a guess from the picture they then need to check the letters and see if they could match their guess. If you said horse but see a p at the beginning of the word you need to try again - think about what it could be that starts with a p? (And if ready, then also consider the other letters in the word) But really all of that should be in 1st grade not K other than for kids who are showing they are really ready to read and want help to advance. Focusing K more on science, social studies, math concepts, and oral language, along with social skills, would produce better readers, writers, and thinkers in the long run. But teachers don't have that choice now. footloose for really working on sounding out as a strategy the BOB books that spins has recommended are good. They have all words that actually can be sounded out. |
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Post by footloose on Jan 22, 2020 12:04:06 GMT
footloose, at home I would just do whatever works best for DD. I can't imagine not teaching how to sound out words along with using visual clues found in the book. I wish there were no pictures most of the time because it's so easy to guess something that isn't the correct word like horse instead of big and then deal with the frustration of getting it wrong. English has so very many non-phonetic words (and also homographs) that we have to teach kids to think just as much about what would sound right/make sense as about sounding out. Many people figure this out pretty naturally which is why back when reading instruction was pretty much all phonics the majority of people still learned to read. But some don't and looking at a word like 'laugh' and going luh-a-uh-guh-huh and then having no other strategy to try when that makes no sense is just as bad as guessing horse from the picture when the word says pony. The should be being taught to cross-check, though - if they have a guess from the picture they then need to check the letters and see if they could match their guess. If you said horse but see a p at the beginning of the word you need to try again - think about what it could be that starts with a p? (And if ready, then also consider the other letters in the word) But really all of that should be in 1st grade not K other than for kids who are showing they are really ready to read and want help to advance. Focusing K more on science, social studies, math concepts, and oral language, along with social skills, would produce better readers, writers, and thinkers in the long run. But teachers don't have that choice now. footloose for really working on sounding out as a strategy the BOB books that spins has recommended are good. They have all words that actually can be sounded out. I do know why they do it but I went through this with Matt too and he did the exact same thing. It was just constant guessing and mostly incorrect which led to a lot of him asking if he was right and me saying no and trying to have him sound out the first letter of the word and him being sad. Repeat a million times. She looks at me like I am speaking nonsense when I say what sound does "L" make etc? She knows the sounds but it seems fairly clear to me that it is not being emphasized enough when teaching them as all she keeps doing is looking at the pictures over and over. Like I said, the horse is on the cover but the word is big as the book is about different animals that are big. There is a big horse one time halfway through the book, so many chances for your kid to be wrong. There just has to be a better mix of teaching it as this isn't working and all I see is she memorizes the pages now that we have read it several times but show her those words separately and she has no clue. |
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Post by footloose on Jan 22, 2020 12:07:36 GMT
Also in Canada, I have noticed that since we have all day Junior Kindergarten first and then all day Senior Kindergarten that Kindergarten is now Grade One basically. What used to be taught and expected in Grade One has been moved up. I don't agree with it but people above me seemed to make those decisions a long time ago.
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Post by cattitude on Jan 22, 2020 13:36:22 GMT
Dd best friend clearly has a speech problem when she can’t say a word she starts talking baby talk she’s 6. The other day I was talking to her and she looked at me like I was crazy she didn’t understand I was saying the word thing. Dd tried to tell her thing and her friend kept saying thin thin I then spelled it. She doesn’t get speech at school and I don’t think she’s going outside school her family has been through a lot the last few years and her mom is a preschool teacher. I have no idea how to bring this up with her without offending her. I think the problem is getting worse. WWYD? My sisters kid still can’t say his Rs and says Ws where the r should be. Wobert instead of Robert. He’s 6. I’ve pointed it out. She hasn’t fixed it. He also can’t do blends. I thought once he got in school the school would surely pull him out to work on speech but that doesn’t seem to be happening. I mean my kid still wouldn’t have his diagnosis if we hadn’t been the ones to say yes, there could be something else going on here, and take the time to figure that out. We’ve had at least 20 doctor’s appointments for one child since October. Hours of driving and missing work and school and waiting, therapy for an hour every week etc... The parenting classes for adhd are 8 weeks of 90 minute classes we will have to attend. I can’t imagine a parent who is otherwise occupied with hard things being able to do what’s required to get help. It’s easier to just think the problem will outgrow itself than to take the time to fix it. I’m sure they know the problem is there. It’s up to them to decide to fix it. |
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Post by mary97 on Jan 22, 2020 14:28:12 GMT
luvboston, how is her hearing? Have you noticed there are times where she isn't hearing you?
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Post by luvboston on Jan 22, 2020 14:37:36 GMT
luvboston, how is her hearing? Have you noticed there are times where she isn't hearing you? Her hearing is fine. |
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Post by spins on Jan 22, 2020 16:30:13 GMT
Dd best friend clearly has a speech problem when she can’t say a word she starts talking baby talk she’s 6. The other day I was talking to her and she looked at me like I was crazy she didn’t understand I was saying the word thing. Dd tried to tell her thing and her friend kept saying thin thin I then spelled it. She doesn’t get speech at school and I don’t think she’s going outside school her family has been through a lot the last few years and her mom is a preschool teacher. I have no idea how to bring this up with her without offending her. I think the problem is getting worse. WWYD? My sisters kid still can’t say his Rs and says Ws where the r should be. Wobert instead of Robert. He’s 6. I’ve pointed it out. She hasn’t fixed it. He also can’t do blends. I thought once he got in school the school would surely pull him out to work on speech but that doesn’t seem to be happening. I mean my kid still wouldn’t have his diagnosis if we hadn’t been the ones to say yes, there could be something else going on here, and take the time to figure that out. We’ve had at least 20 doctor’s appointments for one child since October. Hours of driving and missing work and school and waiting, therapy for an hour every week etc... The parenting classes for adhd are 8 weeks of 90 minute classes we will have to attend. I can’t imagine a parent who is otherwise occupied with hard things being able to do what’s required to get help. It’s easier to just think the problem will outgrow itself than to take the time to fix it. I’m sure they know the problem is there. It’s up to them to decide to fix it. Guilty! DD has the same issues with R, it’s bad in English and even worse with French. She “graduated” from speech therapy last summer, and when I asked the therapist about several sounds she still was saying wrong, she told me it was all age appropriate and would have to be re-evaluated in kindergarten. I asked her K teacher about It this year and she said that Rs aren’t acquired until after 6yo, so she doesn’t qualify for speech therapy at school yet. We could go to private speech therapy but I’ve been lazy and haven’t set it up, I keep hoping it will fix itself. Probably not the best strategy. |
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Post by comicsans on Jan 22, 2020 17:22:55 GMT
My sisters kid still can’t say his Rs and says Ws where the r should be. Wobert instead of Robert. He’s 6. I’ve pointed it out. She hasn’t fixed it. He also can’t do blends. I thought once he got in school the school would surely pull him out to work on speech but that doesn’t seem to be happening. I mean my kid still wouldn’t have his diagnosis if we hadn’t been the ones to say yes, there could be something else going on here, and take the time to figure that out. We’ve had at least 20 doctor’s appointments for one child since October. Hours of driving and missing work and school and waiting, therapy for an hour every week etc... The parenting classes for adhd are 8 weeks of 90 minute classes we will have to attend. I can’t imagine a parent who is otherwise occupied with hard things being able to do what’s required to get help. It’s easier to just think the problem will outgrow itself than to take the time to fix it. I’m sure they know the problem is there. It’s up to them to decide to fix it. Guilty! DD has the same issues with R, it’s bad in English and even worse with French. She “graduated” from speech therapy last summer, and when I asked the therapist about several sounds she still was saying wrong, she told me it was all age appropriate and would have to be re-evaluated in kindergarten. I asked her K teacher about It this year and she said that Rs aren’t acquired until after 6yo, so she doesn’t qualify for speech therapy at school yet. We could go to private speech therapy but I’ve been lazy and haven’t set it up, I keep hoping it will fix itself. Probably not the best strategy. DD has trouble with Rs still. She’ll try if I point it out to her, but it takes thinking and intention on her part to get it. Mostly she just sounds like she has a Boston accent...which maybe she does 😱 |
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Post by athena on Jan 22, 2020 17:30:13 GMT
I had trouble with R's as a kid. Got a little bit of speech help in first grade and got it figured out. R's are one of the harder sounds and one of the last ones kids really grasp.
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Post by lulu on Jan 22, 2020 17:49:28 GMT
For you all with R troubles....imagine being Scottish and trying to roll those fuckers 😂
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