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Post by athena on Jan 15, 2020 18:16:18 GMT
I sent a long email to the CPS coordinator at the MN Office of traffic Safety. I've been left out of the loop my the main southern CPS person. She isn't notifying me of checkup events, and is excluding me from info about upcoming classes. The final straw was her setting up a class at the end of May in a city located 45min away (where the closest Target is). I've mentioned to her in the past that that city is well within my travel range. Instead she is having an instructor come down from northern MN (4 hours away) tp assist with it. I also chatted with another instructor who taught the December class that I was kicked off of, and she has the same thoughts about not being in the loop about events. I also know of several techs in my area that refuse to work with the southern CPS person, with one of the reasons being that she is flaky and hard to get a hold of. Sounds like Southern CPS lady doesn't like you for whatever reason. And maybe not just you. |
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Post by microworm on Jan 15, 2020 18:39:56 GMT
So my kid got his formal diagnoses yesterday of ADHD and anxiety. We go to discuss meds next week for the adhd and I’ve been calling around to find a pediatric therapist that he would see for the anxiety. We are taking a break from occupational therapy (for the sensory issues with clothing and food) as he seems to be doing a lot better with those things from what the therapy had us implement. He’s just a little ball of emotional dysfunction. We meet with the school to help formalize an IEP as well. Luckily he is still average in all his school subjects but it’s gonna get harder and I want a good plan before it does. You are a boss mom. I want to be you when I grow up. |
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Post by microworm on Jan 15, 2020 18:46:16 GMT
Just jumping right back in here.
I'm really bummed. Like I want go lock myself in the bathroom and ugly cry for a bit just to get it all out.
I just had to turn down going to Belgium for work for the SECOND time this month. My parents help a lot while I am OOT and they are traveling in Australia/NZ all this month (yea I know good for them, they deserve it). So it's just really bad timing due to the fact that they cant help and MH's work schedule is problematic in Jan. Literally if could leave 3 days later I could have gone for this last opportunity.
I'm super bummed because I feel like I'm going to get passed up for future opportunities and I really wanted to go because business class trip to Europe and it would have been an amazing opportunity personally and for my career.
I'm also PMSing so maybe that is why I want to get an ugly cry out of my system.
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Post by microworm on Jan 15, 2020 18:47:38 GMT
Also had to go pick up my puking kid in the middle of all this. Feeling the mother load today.
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Post by athena on Jan 15, 2020 18:59:29 GMT
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Post by luvboston on Jan 15, 2020 19:42:51 GMT
Sorry microworm that sucks but why don’t you tell your boss this just happens to be a busy time with your parents away but you would be open in the future. |
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Post by microworm on Jan 15, 2020 19:47:53 GMT
Sorry microworm that sucks but why don’t you tell your boss this just happens to be a busy time with your parents away but you would be open in the future. Yes, I have. I hope he doesn't forget that. |
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Post by lulu on Jan 15, 2020 22:05:56 GMT
microworm I completely get how you feel. It’s so frustrating and unfair. I often feel this way with my career (which at this point is non existent). Things I want to do are dependent on childcare. DH has never experienced these kind of restrictions or knows how it feels to be so frustrated. It sucks. But your boss will 100% know how much this means to you and how you would love to go. It’s not like you turn opportunities down because you can’t be fucked.
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Post by cattitude on Jan 16, 2020 0:08:47 GMT
So my kid got his formal diagnoses yesterday of ADHD and anxiety. We go to discuss meds next week for the adhd and I’ve been calling around to find a pediatric therapist that he would see for the anxiety. We are taking a break from occupational therapy (for the sensory issues with clothing and food) as he seems to be doing a lot better with those things from what the therapy had us implement. He’s just a little ball of emotional dysfunction. We meet with the school to help formalize an IEP as well. Luckily he is still average in all his school subjects but it’s gonna get harder and I want a good plan before it does. You are a boss mom. I want to be you when I grow up. Thank you for saying that. They mentioned part of the parenting class is building the wrecked confidence of parents of adhd kids who feel like failures because traditional parenting methods don’t work and your kid acts like an asshole even when you do all the right things. I’ve also finally got a bit of control of my own anxiety with meds and realize how much easier/ different my life would have been had my parents taken the initiative to get me therapy and a diagnoses at age 5. Would have saved a lot of panic attacks in the teen years and lots of stomach issues, negative coping mechanisms, etc... I’m trying to do for him what I couldn’t do for myself. It’s a shame that so many kids (my husband) walk around with parents in denial and they all just struggle. We’re still gonna struggle but the hope is that we will make some progress over time and he can be self aware. I don’t think I even knew I had anxiety until well into adulthood. Looking back- well duh... |
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Post by cattitude on Jan 16, 2020 0:10:36 GMT
Just jumping right back in here. I'm really bummed. Like I want go lock myself in the bathroom and ugly cry for a bit just to get it all out. I just had to turn down going to Belgium for work for the SECOND time this month. My parents help a lot while I am OOT and they are traveling in Australia/NZ all this month (yea I know good for them, they deserve it). So it's just really bad timing due to the fact that they cant help and MH's work schedule is problematic in Jan. Literally if could leave 3 days later I could have gone for this last opportunity. I'm super bummed because I feel like I'm going to get passed up for future opportunities and I really wanted to go because business class trip to Europe and it would have been an amazing opportunity personally and for my career. I'm also PMSing so maybe that is why I want to get an ugly cry out of my system. Parenting with careers just sucks sometimes. You’re doing the best you can. Opportunity will come when we don’t have such little kids. We will get our time. |
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Post by microworm on Jan 16, 2020 0:10:37 GMT
You are a boss mom. I want to be you when I grow up. Thank you for saying that. They mentioned part of the parenting class is building the wrecked confidence of parents of adhd kids who feel like failures because traditional parenting methods don’t work and your kid acts like an asshole even when you do all the right things. I’ve also finally got a bit of control of my own anxiety with meds and realize how much easier/ different my life would have been had my parents taken the initiative to get me therapy and a diagnoses at age 5. Would have saved a lot of panic attacks in the teen years and lots of stomach issues, negative coping mechanisms, etc... I’m trying to do for him what I couldn’t do for myself. It’s a shame that so many kids (my husband) walk around with parents in denial and they all just struggle. We’re still gonna struggle but the hope is that we will make some progress over time and he can be self aware. I don’t think I even knew I had anxiety until well into adulthood. Looking back- well duh... Seriously, you got this. I have no doubts. |
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Post by microworm on Jan 16, 2020 0:18:16 GMT
Just jumping right back in here. I'm really bummed. Like I want go lock myself in the bathroom and ugly cry for a bit just to get it all out. I just had to turn down going to Belgium for work for the SECOND time this month. My parents help a lot while I am OOT and they are traveling in Australia/NZ all this month (yea I know good for them, they deserve it). So it's just really bad timing due to the fact that they cant help and MH's work schedule is problematic in Jan. Literally if could leave 3 days later I could have gone for this last opportunity. I'm super bummed because I feel like I'm going to get passed up for future opportunities and I really wanted to go because business class trip to Europe and it would have been an amazing opportunity personally and for my career. I'm also PMSing so maybe that is why I want to get an ugly cry out of my system. Parenting with careers just sucks sometimes. You’re doing the best you can. Opportunity will come when we don’t have such little kids. We will get our time. I really hope so. I think my boss understands that this is just really bad timing and I'm so interested in future opportunities. |
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Post by athena on Jan 16, 2020 1:47:09 GMT
I think DH needs to stop helping DD1 with her reading. He means well but he just gets frustrated with her and usually it results in tears. Neither of us ever struggled with learning to read so it's a very new experience for us to see her have trouble.
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Post by luvboston on Jan 16, 2020 2:38:33 GMT
Do you think I can go to zac brown band 2 weeks after my c/s hernia repair? We will have real seats
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Post by mrscheese on Jan 16, 2020 2:42:32 GMT
Do you think I can go to zac brown band 2 weeks after my c/s hernia repair? We will have real seats I don’t know what a hernia repair feels like, but I would go two weeks after a c section. |
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Post by luvboston on Jan 16, 2020 3:32:38 GMT
Do you think I can go to zac brown band 2 weeks after my c/s hernia repair? We will have real seats I don’t know what a hernia repair feels like, but I would go two weeks after a c section. It’s basically like a c/s I assume it will be the same or more sore |
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Post by springbeduk on Jan 16, 2020 11:09:52 GMT
This is so aggravating. We're supposed to get 3-5 inches of snow today (previously forecast to be 4-6) and ALL the other school districts around have announced they will be closed except mine, dd's, and maybe the tiny one in between though the other one in between is closed. Dd has not been feeling well at all and really should stay home today but I only have 5 sick days left for the rest of the year so unless my district closes or she is way worse when she wakes up, I need to send her and go to work.  |
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Post by comicsans on Jan 16, 2020 12:28:42 GMT
I don’t know what a hernia repair feels like, but I would go two weeks after a c section. It’s basically like a c/s I assume it will be the same or more sore I’d be most worried about how much walking you might have to do to get to and from your seats. The 2 week old baby and staying up late would also be deterrents for me, but you know your own comfort level there. |
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Post by cattitude on Jan 16, 2020 12:33:01 GMT
I think DH needs to stop helping DD1 with her reading. He means well but he just gets frustrated with her and usually it results in tears. Neither of us ever struggled with learning to read so it's a very new experience for us to see her have trouble. The majority of kids who are not yet 6 are not ready to read yet. When it clicks, it clicks. I wouldn’t push. You actually shouldn’t push before they’re ready so they don’t hate it. My friends son couldn’t read by the end of kindergarten and he’s in 5th grade and at the top of his class. It’s like who potty trained first- doesn’t mean jack shit. |
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Post by rainbowsockmonkey on Jan 16, 2020 13:21:27 GMT
I'm doing school drop off for Dd1 since I'm taking the cat to the vet for her checkup and shots right after. It's cold outside right now, and our high today is going to be 0.  |
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Post by cattitude on Jan 16, 2020 13:22:04 GMT
Parenting with careers just sucks sometimes. You’re doing the best you can. Opportunity will come when we don’t have such little kids. We will get our time. I really hope so. I think my boss understands that this is just really bad timing and I'm so interested in future opportunities. I think attitude in how you say no matters so much. “Nah, I don’t have time, or can’t work it out with the kids” is so much different than “I really want this opportunity, I am very upset that my life is not allowing me to have this opportunity right now, and I look forward to the next opportunity and hopefully my schedules will align better with my husband/ parents and I can give an enthusiastic yes.” They can tell you want it. You’re not flippantly saying no or using the kids as an excuse not to go. You’re going to be fine. It sucks, but it’s gonna be okay. |
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Post by cattitude on Jan 16, 2020 13:23:50 GMT
Do you think I can go to zac brown band 2 weeks after my c/s hernia repair? We will have real seats I went to the Dixie chicks concert (with seats) when I got out of the hospital with my appendix. I would ask the doc for a temporary handicap sticker just for that concert so you can park close. |
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Post by athena on Jan 16, 2020 14:10:25 GMT
I think DH needs to stop helping DD1 with her reading. He means well but he just gets frustrated with her and usually it results in tears. Neither of us ever struggled with learning to read so it's a very new experience for us to see her have trouble. The majority of kids who are not yet 6 are not ready to read yet. When it clicks, it clicks. I wouldn’t push. You actually shouldn’t push before they’re ready so they don’t hate it. My friends son couldn’t read by the end of kindergarten and he’s in 5th grade and at the top of his class. It’s like who potty trained first- doesn’t mean jack shit. It's basically her only homework. I feel like we have to do it some. I know she's not really ready to be reading independently but she does get some of the easier sentences. ETA she loves books and us reading to her and really wants to be able to read. |
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Post by cattitude on Jan 16, 2020 14:48:55 GMT
The majority of kids who are not yet 6 are not ready to read yet. When it clicks, it clicks. I wouldn’t push. You actually shouldn’t push before they’re ready so they don’t hate it. My friends son couldn’t read by the end of kindergarten and he’s in 5th grade and at the top of his class. It’s like who potty trained first- doesn’t mean jack shit. It's basically her only homework. I feel like we have to do it some. I know she's not really ready to be reading independently but she does get some of the easier sentences. ETA she loves books and us reading to her and really wants to be able to read. Yeah wanting to and being ready to are different things. One of the things we learned in therapy with the adhd is to do homework right when they come home from school and to set a timer for 3-5 minutes and switch to a different school task when the timer goes off until it’s done. You don’t want to stop the timer and let them play because it’s hard to get back into school mode. But they suggest doing like reading 3 minutes- whether you get through the book or not, you stop when the timer goes off. Then sight words (or math, whatever) for 3 minutes, then back to that book and the reading, until it’s done. We also have to offer incentives (I hate it) because that is just how his brain works so he has 100 sight words to master for the whole year of K and if he does it, he gets his guinea pig he’s wanted forever. You might also find that she and dad need to change spaces to do the homework- so go away from sis and mom so they don’t feel they’re missing out on something fun. Lately we’ve been having little bro do “homework” at the same time as big bro. Nothing fun is happening at that time. |
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Post by luvboston on Jan 16, 2020 14:51:34 GMT
Fx for me 2 of the busiest days with no help and the cleaning lady is coming tomorrow
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Post by athena on Jan 16, 2020 14:58:08 GMT
It's basically her only homework. I feel like we have to do it some. I know she's not really ready to be reading independently but she does get some of the easier sentences. ETA she loves books and us reading to her and really wants to be able to read. Yeah wanting to and being ready to are different things. One of the things we learned in therapy with the adhd is to do homework right when they come home from school and to set a timer for 3-5 minutes and switch to a different school task when the timer goes off until it’s done. You don’t want to stop the timer and let them play because it’s hard to get back into school mode. But they suggest doing like reading 3 minutes- whether you get through the book or not, you stop when the timer goes off. Then sight words (or math, whatever) for 3 minutes, then back to that book and the reading, until it’s done. We also have to offer incentives (I hate it) because that is just how his brain works so he has 100 sight words to master for the whole year of K and if he does it, he gets his guinea pig he’s wanted forever. You might also find that she and dad need to change spaces to do the homework- so go away from sis and mom so they don’t feel they’re missing out on something fun. Lately we’ve been having little bro do “homework” at the same time as big bro. Nothing fun is happening at that time. We're going to switch to doing homework right after she gets home. We started that way at the beginning of the year but I've been forgetful about it so it's totally my fault. Thankfully DD2 goes and lays down for a bit when we get home because she needs the rest after school so she'll be out of the way then too. |
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Post by rainbowsockmonkey on Jan 16, 2020 15:33:23 GMT
Yeah wanting to and being ready to are different things. One of the things we learned in therapy with the adhd is to do homework right when they come home from school and to set a timer for 3-5 minutes and switch to a different school task when the timer goes off until it’s done. You don’t want to stop the timer and let them play because it’s hard to get back into school mode. But they suggest doing like reading 3 minutes- whether you get through the book or not, you stop when the timer goes off. Then sight words (or math, whatever) for 3 minutes, then back to that book and the reading, until it’s done. We also have to offer incentives (I hate it) because that is just how his brain works so he has 100 sight words to master for the whole year of K and if he does it, he gets his guinea pig he’s wanted forever. You might also find that she and dad need to change spaces to do the homework- so go away from sis and mom so they don’t feel they’re missing out on something fun. Lately we’ve been having little bro do “homework” at the same time as big bro. Nothing fun is happening at that time. We're going to switch to doing homework right after she gets home. We started that way at the beginning of the year but I've been forgetful about it so it's totally my fault. Thankfully DD2 goes and lays down for a bit when we get home because she needs the rest after school so she'll be out of the way then too. I wish Dd2 would rest while Dd1 does homework. She's usually right at the table trying to get my attention while I'm helping Dd1. Even having her practice her letters/name or coloring doesn't distract her for very long. |
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Post by spins on Jan 16, 2020 15:43:22 GMT
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Post by spins on Jan 16, 2020 15:47:40 GMT
I don’t know what a hernia repair feels like, but I would go two weeks after a c section. It’s basically like a c/s I assume it will be the same or more sore I feel like I would have been okay to go 2 weeks after my csections physicAlly. But will this be after the baby is born? I wouldn’t leave a tiny newborn |
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Post by athena on Jan 16, 2020 15:54:40 GMT
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