Post by springbeduk on Jul 19, 2022 14:05:43 GMT
This is about ds (almost 4) not my M'14 dd, but ... you have experience/hindsight and some of you have youngers too, so -
Did/do any of you have a child who was super super stubborn about starting to use the toilet for poop 💩 . Lessons learned? Advice?
Ds is going to be 4 in just over a month. He will be starting full-day preK 2 weeks after that. He is pretty good with peeing on the toilet (sitting down - I need to work with him on standing to do it but anyway for now the poop issue isn't about sitting vs standing because he sits anyway) but absolutely will not poop on the toilet at home. He used to (a few times) at the daycare family he went to during the school year but then he started holding it til we got home and pooping in his pull up. One of the very rare times I had him at school with me for a bit (in May probably?) he pooped in the toilet there. But at home, no, and now I'm pretty sure he's even holding it when he's at their dads and pooping in his pull up as soon as we get home.
He has rejected/outfitted every attempt at incentive/reward- he just decides he doesn't want the thing anyway as soon as I say he can have it if he poops on the potty. I've even taken away tablet time (but he can have it if sitting on toilet trying to poop and can have it other times too after he starts pooping on the toilet) and he was totally screen addicted but it turns out he is willing to give up watching videos to keep pooping in his pull up.
Stubborn stubborn stubborn!
We are trying undies some of the time, but limited by needing to go places. Next week may be able to go more all in on undies.
Dd was late for using the toilet for poop - maybe even later than ds - in contrast to seeming oder than her age for most things- but it as different than ds and I don't remember all the details unfortunately. She seemed truly scared to poop on the toilet until she finally as ready to, but I don't remember exactly what got her past the fear.
Did/do any of you have a child who was super super stubborn about starting to use the toilet for poop 💩 . Lessons learned? Advice?
Ds is going to be 4 in just over a month. He will be starting full-day preK 2 weeks after that. He is pretty good with peeing on the toilet (sitting down - I need to work with him on standing to do it but anyway for now the poop issue isn't about sitting vs standing because he sits anyway) but absolutely will not poop on the toilet at home. He used to (a few times) at the daycare family he went to during the school year but then he started holding it til we got home and pooping in his pull up. One of the very rare times I had him at school with me for a bit (in May probably?) he pooped in the toilet there. But at home, no, and now I'm pretty sure he's even holding it when he's at their dads and pooping in his pull up as soon as we get home.
He has rejected/outfitted every attempt at incentive/reward- he just decides he doesn't want the thing anyway as soon as I say he can have it if he poops on the potty. I've even taken away tablet time (but he can have it if sitting on toilet trying to poop and can have it other times too after he starts pooping on the toilet) and he was totally screen addicted but it turns out he is willing to give up watching videos to keep pooping in his pull up.
Stubborn stubborn stubborn!
We are trying undies some of the time, but limited by needing to go places. Next week may be able to go more all in on undies.
Dd was late for using the toilet for poop - maybe even later than ds - in contrast to seeming oder than her age for most things- but it as different than ds and I don't remember all the details unfortunately. She seemed truly scared to poop on the toilet until she finally as ready to, but I don't remember exactly what got her past the fear.
