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Post by activebaby on Mar 18, 2022 23:48:43 GMT
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Post by lrmrtn on Mar 19, 2022 12:47:21 GMT
lulu I saw the pics from the wedding you all went to and I have a question…when did your oldest become a grown up lady already? Beautiful pictures of you all ❤️❤️ Agreed! Faith's dress was so cute!
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Post by mrscheese on Mar 20, 2022 4:16:44 GMT
We took the kids out for pizza today. We were the only people in the whole place. As our food came, a large group came in. Turned out to be a bday party of a girl in Cots class. Super awkward as we were not invited. Only 3 girls from the class weren’t there. Cot knew that she was excluded right away and her lower lip was quivering. I felt bad for her. They were gracious and invited her to join them for cake, but it was so so awkward.
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Post by lecky on Mar 20, 2022 5:17:31 GMT
We took the kids out for pizza today. We were the only people in the whole place. As our food came, a large group came in. Turned out to be a bday party of a girl in Cots class. Super awkward as we were not invited. Only 3 girls from the class weren’t there. Cot knew that she was excluded right away and her lower lip was quivering. I felt bad for her. They were gracious and invited her to join them for cake, but it was so so awkward. Poor Cot. Do they not require you to invite the whole class if you hand out invites at school?
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Post by mrscheese on Mar 20, 2022 5:45:42 GMT
We took the kids out for pizza today. We were the only people in the whole place. As our food came, a large group came in. Turned out to be a bday party of a girl in Cots class. Super awkward as we were not invited. Only 3 girls from the class weren’t there. Cot knew that she was excluded right away and her lower lip was quivering. I felt bad for her. They were gracious and invited her to join them for cake, but it was so so awkward. Poor Cot. Do they not require you to invite the whole class if you hand out invites at school? They don’t allow handing out invites at school. Usually when we get invited to things it’s Evite or a text from a parent but it’s always been the whole class or all girls or boys, especially in K. I’m not mad at the parents but it is a really shitty feeling for both kids and parents. I’m sad it happened and how it made Cot feel. We will either have one or two of her friends over for her birthday or all girls for a party somewhere for her bday. I will not take a chance on this happening to another family.
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Post by jennyinheaven on Mar 20, 2022 11:13:51 GMT
We took the kids out for pizza today. We were the only people in the whole place. As our food came, a large group came in. Turned out to be a bday party of a girl in Cots class. Super awkward as we were not invited. Only 3 girls from the class weren’t there. Cot knew that she was excluded right away and her lower lip was quivering. I felt bad for her. They were gracious and invited her to join them for cake, but it was so so awkward. That's hard. I'm sorry your baby had to go thru that in kindergarten. I think it's side eye able to the parents. I'm team invite all or just do something with a special friend or two. Inviting 75% is just mean and invites exclusion. Even if you hadn't run into them kids talk at school and stuff about what they do on weekends.
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Post by footloose on Mar 20, 2022 11:39:56 GMT
Thank you. Things have been extremely rough this month and I can barely get myself together. I eat cereal at least 3 times a week for dinner. Just feel very lost.
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Post by footloose on Mar 20, 2022 12:01:52 GMT
Also more stuff happened after we broke up. Later that week on the Friday after work I had to pick up Peyton at my parents friend's house since they were there. They have a long curvy driveway in a big semi circle but my dad was parked halfway and when I was reversing my car went off the driveway a bit and got stuck in the ice and snow. I asked them to help me get out and my mom got in my car while my dad and I dug with shovels and pushed. She floored it and then when out basically drove the whole distance again so we were saying stop and I said it a few times since she kept driving and though obviously she couldn't hear. I just didn't want to have to start all over again and get stuck again. She gets out and says that I was "shrieking" at her. I have a bad cold and my voice is high pitched right now, but I said no, and also we all were saying stop not just me.
Then I wake up to insanely huge mean texts from her ranting about how mad she is at me and saying awful things about me. I am mean and horrible to Peyton and sing psychological harm to her. She went on and on. Also said she could see why BF left me. I only responded by saying wow, this is the second time you have said truly mean things to me when I am down and I said that I am not horrible to Peyton at all. She came back with another huge rant and listed a million things and talked about stuff from when I was a child and she is not helping with with anything anymore and I need to grow up.
She was so mean. I was upset and later texted BF to ask if this is how he felt too since he left and this is what my mom said about me. I had to go out for a bit but then we got home and saw he called and told me to call him back. He said that he had been on the phone with my mom as she called him when he got my text. He was hesitant to say what she said as it was bad. He said she was basically saying so much to throw me under the bus and basically make sure he doesn't like me anymore. She said she didn't blame him at all for leaving, told him several personal things about me (he knew, but what if I hadn't told him?), then said that she wanted him to know that my ex husband is NOT the father of Peyton. Like wtf? I have always said I had a boyfriend and yes he knows his name etc. Never tried to pretend otherwise. Shaming me for having other boyfriends??
She ended it with oh come by any time, glad to see you! Who says that to their child's ex boyfriend?
I was furious and beyond shocked and spent the weekend not knowing what to do or say. Finally on Monday I texted my dad trying to be clear about what she did and was so inappropriate and mean. He then said he wouldn't have called BF but he sees it from her perspective! I said seriously? And she has said truly mean things to me and about me to others and I am just supposed to pretend like that didn't happen?
So to end all this, I haven't seen or spoked to my mom since. She is always in the other room when I get Peyton. I told my dad I would find another sitter since she complains about watching her but my dad said no, they love watching her- they honestly have nothing else to do and this is a huge source of joy each day- my mom just likes to complain.
So have been hugely stressed and depressed each day. It is hard to have no one but yourself and your child.
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Post by footloose on Mar 20, 2022 12:07:26 GMT
Bf and I do talk each day though. I would love to try to work through whatever issues there are and get back to how we were before. He is kind of open to it, guess he is skeptical if things will change. He said he misses me too and we have had coffee a couple of times when I was in Owen Sound for her Girl Guides as we were talking about what my mom had said to him. He felt really bad and said he has never known a parent to talk that much shit about their own kid. It was mind blowing to him, but did make him see more about what I have spoken about and why I have to deal with her a certain way.
I asked him if he wanted to come for dinner tonight (I had said we should go slow and maybe date again). He had said yes it would be nice.....and then I wake up feeling like total crap and test to find out I have Covid! I go 2 years and triple vaxxed and of course, I suddenly have to get it now. This sucks
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Post by jennyinheaven on Mar 20, 2022 12:11:29 GMT
footloose I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'd absolutely find another sitter if at all possible and cut ties/ create some distance between you and your parents. You could also need some counseling. Perhaps something virtual so you could do it with P at home. Your mom sounds toxic and abusive and your dad is enabling her.
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Post by athena on Mar 20, 2022 16:04:32 GMT
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Post by springbeduk on Mar 20, 2022 16:13:19 GMT
Oh my goodness footloose, that is a lot! I can't believe how horrible your mother is being to you. I mean, I believe you, but just so much WTF to her; why would anyone ever do that?!?! Lots of hugs to you. Sorry about covid and especially it being bad timing with the dinner you had planned. I really hope you have a mild case and that P will too (or maybe manage to not get it). Excuse to stay even farther away from your mom for a while? I hope you get paid sick days.
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Post by footloose on Mar 20, 2022 16:31:59 GMT
Oh my goodness footloose, that is a lot! I can't believe how horrible your mother is being to you. I mean, I believe you, but just so much WTF to her; why would anyone ever do that?!?! Lots of hugs to you. Sorry about covid and especially it being bad timing with the dinner you had planned. I really hope you have a mild case and that P will too (or maybe manage to not get it). Excuse to stay even farther away from your mom for a while? I hope you get paid sick days. That is the problem too. No I don't get sick days and really don't have any extra money right now at all. That is also part of the reason I have to have my parents watch Peyton. The centre in town has more than a year wait list and babysitters are charging around $20 an hour which is more than I make so can't afford that. No options in a tiny town at all.
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Post by lrmrtn on Mar 20, 2022 21:39:29 GMT
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Post by mrscheese on Mar 22, 2022 0:41:25 GMT
footloose omg! That’s a lot. I’m so sorry. Can we help? You know we would like to if we can.
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Post by mrscheese on Mar 22, 2022 0:49:48 GMT
I would like to throat punch the parents who taught their kid to be vocally anti mask at school and in turn made my 5 year old shout things like “my body, my choice!” and “in America, we can’t be told what to do!” at me when I ask her to take a bath. (Yes, I understand the irony of my child coming home from Catholic school screaming my body my choice 😆) I get it, masks aren’t everyone’s favorite thing, but for the love of all that is holy, can we be more mindful of what we’re filling our kids minds and mouths with?!
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Post by jennyinheaven on Mar 24, 2022 13:55:21 GMT
Hey footloose How are you making out? Thinking of you today? Hope the covid is mild and other drams has at least calmed
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Post by jennyinheaven on Mar 24, 2022 14:02:45 GMT
I'm in the waiting room at my gynecological oncologist waiting on my 6 month check up. There is an adorable old man in here with his wife who has cancer and dementia. They way he is speaking and caring her for is just adorable. A nice reminder that love still exists in this grumpy world.
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Post by activebaby on Mar 24, 2022 14:37:25 GMT
I'm in the waiting room at my gynecological oncologist waiting on my 6 month check up. There is an adorable old man in here with his wife who has cancer and dementia. They way he is speaking and caring her for is just adorable. A nice reminder that love still exists in this grumpy world. Hope it’s a smooth appointment. It’s so nice to see sweet interactions - there aren’t enough of those.
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Post by activebaby on Mar 24, 2022 14:41:31 GMT
footloose I hope you are feeling better. I’m sorry for all the bad interactions. Tapatalk didn’t show me your comments timely of course. So I’m sorry for asking and then not responding. My mom treats my brother in a challenging way too and talks lots of crap about him. She doesn’t treat me the same. He has quit speaking to her. It all sucks so much. I’m just sorry she treats you so poorly.
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Post by mrscheese on Mar 25, 2022 2:47:18 GMT
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Post by scotty on Mar 25, 2022 16:00:26 GMT
I missed UTI symptoms in M and it went to his kidney. He's doing much better today with a couple doses of antibiotics but I feel bad for writing off his stomach aches. He just got a good kidney report in February and it included "no surgery needed at this time unless he gets breakthrough infection". Such a big step backwards.
I've also got big news, but I will put it on the private board.
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Post by meggypoo1 on Mar 25, 2022 16:00:38 GMT
Hi! Thanks for checking in. Sorry I haven’t been around. Work has been crazy. We were short handed and then one of my coworkers left so we are even more short handed and a lot of the stuff has been left up to me. Then you add all the kids stuff I am just tired. In other news, my boy is going to be 5 tomorrow! 🤯 How is everyone?!
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Post by meggypoo1 on Mar 25, 2022 16:07:33 GMT
I missed UTI symptoms in M and it went to his kidney. He's doing much better today with a couple doses of antibiotics but I feel bad for writing off his stomach aches. He just got a good kidney report in February and it included "no surgery needed at this time unless he gets breakthrough infection". Such a big step backwards. I've also got big news, but I will put it on the private board. I’m so sorry. 😞 I hope he feels better soon. Does he need surgery?
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Post by jennyinheaven on Mar 25, 2022 16:16:23 GMT
🤬 my dishwasher died this morning. Of course DH is away until Sunday. Oh well there goes $500 bucks.
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Post by scotty on Mar 25, 2022 16:40:22 GMT
🤬 my dishwasher died this morning. Of course DH is away until Sunday. Oh well there goes $500 bucks. Oh no! Can you get one you like locally? I've had a specific one picked out for a while but it's always out of stock.
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Post by scotty on Mar 25, 2022 16:43:28 GMT
I missed UTI symptoms in M and it went to his kidney. He's doing much better today with a couple doses of antibiotics but I feel bad for writing off his stomach aches. He just got a good kidney report in February and it included "no surgery needed at this time unless he gets breakthrough infection". Such a big step backwards. I've also got big news, but I will put it on the private board. I’m so sorry. 😞 I hope he feels better soon. Does he need surgery? I'm not sure. He was seen in the ER so I have notes into his specialists to see what they want to do. I Googled the antibiotic they prescribed and his daily meds and they say not to take them together. I wish his specialists were local and he didn't have to get these complications managed in a random ER.
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Post by meggypoo1 on Mar 25, 2022 16:44:48 GMT
I’m so sorry. 😞 I hope he feels better soon. Does he need surgery? I'm not sure. He was seen in the ER so I have notes into his specialists to see what they want to do. I Googled the antibiotic they prescribed and his daily meds and they say not to take them together. I wish his specialists were local and he didn't have to get these complications managed in a random ER. Oh gosh. Idk why ERs don’t have this knowledge, I feel like they should.
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Post by meggypoo1 on Mar 25, 2022 16:46:02 GMT
🤬 my dishwasher died this morning. Of course DH is away until Sunday. Oh well there goes $500 bucks. Oh no!! I swear every single time MH travels something happens.
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Post by jennyinheaven on Mar 25, 2022 17:23:15 GMT
🤬 my dishwasher died this morning. Of course DH is away until Sunday. Oh well there goes $500 bucks. Oh no! Can you get one you like locally? I've had a specific one picked out for a while but it's always out of stock. I saw some that would work at Lowe's. I'm going to wait until DH comes home to pull the trigger though. Does anyone have finger print resistant stainless in their kitchen? We have l stainless appliances but I'm constantly wiping them down for spots, was wondering if it actually works.
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